What level of privacy is it appropriate to have in a marriage? There are some posts and messages on Facebook which I would really rather my spouse didn’t see, even though I’m not cheating on her.


You have the absolute right to have as much privacy as you like.


In a marriage, trust is one of the most basic and essential elements of your relationship. Once trust is broken or lost, it can take quite a bit of work to regain it. Yet, when it is there, you just glide seamlessly through life together. So, rather than ask the question how much privacy can I have – you could be asking the question “Why would I want to hide anything from my spouse?”
The main reason for wanting privacy is because of fear of some kind. If you are afraid your spouse would not be happy with your posts and messages – then ask the question ‘Why they would not be happy?’ – and if it seems that the messages are not in the best interests of complete trust and harmony, then ask yourself why you would need to keep posting messages and posts like that.
Your one goal is to work towards and learn about creating a completely trusting and loving relationship.

If this is what you really want, then you would choose to be completely open in everything that you do, say or post. No Secrets!

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