Relationships are difficult. They take a lot of work, care, patience, listening, and, most of all, unconditional love. Taking the step to join your life with someone else’s can be tough. Between clashing values, infidelity and trust issues, differing communication styles, and many more factors, relationships present a number of potential challenges.

Even when unconditional love is present, a union between two people is trying. Relationship coaches work to head off potential clashes between couples rather than reacting after something bad has happened. Here are a few ways to know whether a relationship coach would be beneficial to you and your love:

You feel like you’re not being heard by your partner:

The way we communicate with others is influenced by a number of different factors, such as how we were raised and/or our previous relationships. When two people with different communication styles enter into a relationship together it can often cause clashes that are completely avoidable. A relationship coach can help a couple recognize their communication setbacks and preferences, therefore teaching them how to communicate effectively.

You’re unable to separate your new relationship from your previous ones:

Perhaps your past partner gaslighted, neglected, or broke down your trust. If those situations were left unresolved and never confronted, it is possible that you’re transferring those issues into your new relationship. A new relationship should represent a clean slate and an opportunity to be involved in something beautiful. A coach can help you talk through unresolved emotions and fears with your partner.

You want to move past infidelity but don’t know where to start:

Trust is the core of a relationship. If that core has been compromised, it can be difficult to forgive and begin to repair it. Where do you even start? Infidelity can be excruciatingly painful, and rightly so. Moving on and having a fulfilling relationship with your partner, even after they’ve been unfaithful, isn’t just possible, it can be life changing (take our word for it—we’ve been there!). By working through a relationship coach, you and your partner will be able to address the infidelity with options tailored to your needs.

Love is the most precious gift we are given, and yet we so often spend our time and money in less fulfilling aspects of our life. If you are serious about making your relationship work with your partner a life coach can be the best investment you’ll ever make. By teaching you how to love one another unconditionally and prioritizing your relationship, a connection can be forged that will last a lifetime.