Pete Uglow’s Blog
There is no debate, discovering our partners have not been faithful is excruciatingly painful. When we’re experiencing infidelity, it can be easy to go online and try to discover why; we want answers to how and why this happened, why we didn’t know sooner, and how to...
I want to preface this article with some kind of warning. The things I’m going to say may well, actually probably will, bring up resistance in you. You see, people generally romanticise their childhood, even when it was pretty dreadful. I know of one man who was left alone at the age of four, often for days at a time whilst his mother was out partying. He then had to feed himself on cat food as there was nothing else left in the house. Now as an adult he describes his childhood as “Not too bad” and “Pretty good at times”
Communication is learned incredibly early in life. The way our parents talk to us as toddlers influences the way we talk to others as adults. It is this early in life where we learn communication styles that can be detrimental to communicating in relationships....
Relationships are difficult. They take a lot of work, care, patience, listening, and, most of all, unconditional love. Taking the step to join your life with someone else’s can be tough. Between clashing values, infidelity and trust issues, differing communication...
The simple answer is “Yes – a marriage can most definitely survive infidelity.” But, in a marriage, as in life, we don’t want to merely survive, we actually want to thrive, to grow, to experience better. There is nothing worse than feeling stuck and helpless and not knowing what to do about it.
“My husband seems like the perfect man. He doesn’t go out, doesn’t drink and he goes to church. He is respectful and attentive. Why do I feel bored?”
“My husband is hiding something. I’m pretty sure he is having an affair as I keep catching him texting and smiling, and then he acts all suspicious if I ask him about it. This makes me want to keep checking up on him, going through his pockets etc. I haven’t found anything definite yet. How can I find out for sure what’s going on? “
Each time my husband and I have a big row (usually about the affair), it seems the only way I can end the argument is to tell him I am going to leave. Whenever I do this he will apologise and then the argument is over.
“Everywhere we go, my husband is effusively charming to other women. Other people think he must be a wonderful husband but I just see him flirting. He’ll help girls on with their coat, laugh at their jokes, ask them about themselves, but he ignores me.
What’s wrong with me that he does this?”
My wife seems to want to spend more time with her friends and on social media than she does with me. I feel jealous and rejected. Why does she choose that over spending time with me?