Pete Uglow’s Blog
When ‘Love’ Changes
A fledgling relationship is not unlike finding a new favourite restaurant. The first time you dine there, you’re excited by all the menu items to explore and try, by the enchanting atmosphere, and by the flavours of each food you sample. You go back for more on a...
What If Only One Person Embraces Unconditional Love in A Marriage?
Marlene and Richard attended an intervention with me and my husband, Pete, early last year after Richard had confessed to a number of extra-marital affairs. After 22 years of marriage, Marlene was understandably distressed but quick to recognise that Unconditional...
When Infidelity Is A Mistake You Want To Put Right
My little 17 month old grandson was at our house recently and whilst he was exploring all of our cupboards as toddlers do, he accidentally knocked a pretty plate from the dresser above and it instantly shattered into several pieces. Holding his little hands in the...
After Infidelity: Restoring Passion Through Unconditional Love
Affairs are full of secrecy, making them seem exciting, desperate, and passionate. They are unsafe, and so we experience surges of adrenaline that make us feel like we’re on top of the world. If you’re trying to repair your marriage after being unfaithful to your...
The Real Power of Those Three Words
The need for love and connection is a deeply human desire. We are gifted with the need for it at birth and require comfort and care just as much as we need oxygen to breathe, sustenance to stay strong, and shelter to keep us safe. Even before we reach adulthood, we...
The Truth Behind a Marriage Lacking Physical Intimacy
When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? Many people attribute intimacy the physical aspect of relationships, but there are actually two kinds of intimacy—physical intimacy and emotional intimacy. Speaking generally, men are usually more inclined to need...
Why Doesn’t An Unfaithful Spouse Feel Remorse?
I was unfaithful to my wife and I now know why – because I was emotionally dying due to a lack of unconditional love in my life. I didn’t know any of this until my wife discovered my infidelity. I have since learnt that the world is mostly unaware of the true nature of unconditional love and the absolutely necessity to have it in our lives in order to become emotionally alive. I certainly was and I lived with an emotional pain that I was both unaware of and unaware of the things I did to try and reduce the pain.
Why Infidelity Isn’t the End
My relationship is stronger than ever. We have found unconditional love. We have also come a long way. After infidelity, it was hard to pick up the pieces of our relationship. Luckily, we asked for help and had our lives, and our marriage, changed for life. As we...
“Happy People Don’t Cheat” and Other Infidelity Myths
There is no debate, discovering our partners have not been faithful is excruciatingly painful. When we’re experiencing infidelity, it can be easy to go online and try to discover why; we want answers to how and why this happened, why we didn’t know sooner, and how to...
When Love Isn’t Love At All — the lie we are fed as children
I want to preface this article with some kind of warning. The things I’m going to say may well, actually probably will, bring up resistance in you. You see, people generally romanticise their childhood, even when it was pretty dreadful. I know of one man who was left alone at the age of four, often for days at a time whilst his mother was out partying. He then had to feed himself on cat food as there was nothing else left in the house. Now as an adult he describes his childhood as “Not too bad” and “Pretty good at times”